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La muerte, un amanecer

“…nada de lo que nos ocurre es debido a la casualidad…”

Cuando hablamos de la muerte, el ambiente se torna sombrío y frío, es como si fuera un tabú hablar de ello. Aunque todos sabemos que es inevitable, su simple recuerdo nos pone en alerta ante la fragilidad de lo que es nuestra vida. Incluso hemos pensado que la muerte es como un mito, ya que no la vemos llegar. No por eso sabemos qué nos espera a la vuelta de la esquina.

Hoy en día la muerte se ha mostrado como una solución a los males que nos acosan, como el dolor, el sufrimiento, la pérdida de sentido en un mundo tan violento y descontrolado. La investigación que hace la Dra. Kubler-Ross acerca de las experiencia cercanas a la muerte de una realidad que muchas veces nos hace falta reflexionar: “Ningún moribundo os pedirá una inyección si lo cuidáis con amor y si le ayudáis a arreglar sus problemas pendientes.”

Es en la muerte cuando comenzamos a valorar la vida que tenemos, ya que en cualquier momento se puede acabar, pero no hemos de esperar a perder todo para comenzar a valorarlo. ” Si vivís bien, no tenéis por qué preocuparos sobre la muerte, aunque sólo os quede un día de vida. El factor tiempo no juega más que un papel insignificante y de todas maneras está basado en una concepción elaborada por el hombre.”

Es necesario sufrir para encontrar un sentido en la vida, así mismo lo hemos visto con el relato de Viktor Frankl, quien aprendió el valor de su vida cuando no tenía nada por qué seguir viviendo. ” Si se escucha la voz interior y el propio saber interno, que con relación a uno mismo es el más importante, entonces uno no se engañará y sabrá lo que debe hacer con su vida.”

Si analizamos lo que es la muerte, es el mero cese de signos vitales, simplemente vamos a dejar de hacer las funciones orgánicas que hacemos. No tiene sentido temerle a la muerte, pero solo los seres humanos somos capaces de advertir su llegada y por eso tememos, no a lo que sigue, sino a lo que dejamos de hacer. ¿Qué sentido tiene tu vida?

¿Cargas piedras?

Muchas veces una piedra puede pesar como si fueran muchas, así nos pasa con los problemas en nuestra vida, con uno solo pensamos que son más. Descubre el problema principal para que puedas liberarte de una carga y dejar de luchar contra tantos problemas.

No es la piedra lo que te estorba o te lastima, sino tu actitud frente a ella. Las piedras siempre van a estar ahí, no podemos esperar a que cambien ni cambiarlas, pero sí podemos cambiar nuestra actitud hacia ellas. ¿Cómo te tomas las cosas? Es como te vas a ajustar a ellas o como decides que te afecten.

Surf life

A surfer life is all about enjoying the ride, is about seeing yourself against Nature and realizing it is impossible to control what is coming. Every new wave is a challenge to our capacity, but we don’t run from it, but face the impossible using a surfboard so we can be able to ride the ocean. 

Surfing is a competition between a mighty force of nature and the frail and weak humanity, “they’re not competing against any person; they’re not trying to beat anyone,” they only try to become a part of this great moment while it lasts, using all the skills at hand to make it through the wave.

Life goes on, just like the ocean, there are big waves and small waves, they all affect our lives; we can get wet, or get drowned, or we can end up just floating giving up every chance to change the current events. “The surfer waits for the big wave because he values the challenge it presents.” The more challenging the obstacle we face, the greater the opportunity for the surfer to discover and extend his or her true potential. It depends on the goal we are reaching to make our life or enterprise achieve meaning. We win what we want to win; for that goal we pursue with every decision, we take action.

It is not the achievement, but the effort we put on to conquer the goal. The competition is not about beating the other but recognizing our capacity and with our abilities to make way to get what we want. We ourselves are the opponent to conquer.  “In true competition, no person is defeated. Both players benefit by their efforts to overcome the obstacles presented by the other.”

La paradoja divina

Nicolás de Cusa es un filósofo italiano del Renacimiento, apasionado de la verdad y sumergido en un mundo que deja de contemplar la realidad a los ojos de la fe por un estudio de la realidad más mecanicista y materialista. En una de sus obras “La visión de Dios”, trata acerca de lo que es Dios, y concluye que Dios es toda contradicción, si Él es todo implicaría que todo lo que hay, incluso la nada es Dios.

“Eres a la vez visible e invisible: invisible eres como tú eres; eres visible en la medida en que las criaturas existen, pues las criaturas son en tanto en cuanto te ve. Por tanto, tú, Dios mío invisible, eres visto por todos. Eres visto en toda visión por todo el que ve; tú, que eres invisible, que estás desvinculado de todo lo visible y estás sobreexaltado en el infinito, eres visto en todo lo visible y en todo acto de visión.”48

En Dios se encuentra todo ser. Así como nosotros por medio de la observación encontramos que las cosas vienen en pares, estos pares son contrarios: luz-oscuridad, día-noche, etc.

“El intelecto sabe que es ignorante y que no puede captarte porque eres la infinitud. Entender la infinitud es comprehender lo incomprehensible.” 53
Cuando hablamos de Dios no es necesariamente un dios de una religión determinada, pero al mismo tiempo, todo estudio de Dios puede enriquecer cualquier sentido religioso ya que en Dios no hay religión y eso permite que todo entre, al ser siempre el mismo no cambia ni tampoco se reduce a un solo sentido, todo cabe.

“El fin que es fin de sí mismo es sí mismo es infinito; y todo fin que no es fin de sí mismo es un fin finito… En la infinitud, la oposición de los opuestos existe sin oposición… La infinitud no es ni mayor, ni menor, ni igual que ninguna cosa.” 54-56

¿Cómo representar a Dios? ¿Sería posible conocerlo si no hay fin? Sabemos que es el inicio de todo pero el fin se nos desdibuja por lo que su conocimiento no acaba pero todo lo contiene.

La visión de Dios estudiada por Nicolás de Cusa es un tratado de Dios como un estudio de ese Ser superior que el hombre tiene desde su origen como explicación de todo lo que existe, lejos de ser una explicación infantil, es un modo de entender por qué se nos dificulta el estudio de Dios al ser todo lo que hay.

OG complex

The story of “The phantom of the opera” written by Gaston Leroux is mostly known by the musical composed by Andrew Lloyd Webber. In the Opera in Paris there seems to be a Ghost that threatens the security and well being of all the people living at the building and the feverish spectators who attend the shows.

This misterious presence harrasses the Opera, and knows every corner of it to fulfill his purpose and get what he wants: power. He controls everything that happens there, orders who sits where and what is presented. He is filled with wonders, mistery and death. If he is not obeyed, terrible consequences happen at the least expected moment. However, he will leave you at peace if you are willing to pay 30,000 francs. The main question is: why?

Such violence seems to be like a child who manipulates the Opera as his playground and when he is not apreciated he has a tantrum and something terrible happens. It is like this infantile presence only wants attention, and wants to be noticed so he can be loved.

A girl notices him and becomes his pupil. She lets him control her and falls in love with him. But that is not the love he wants, someone who submits to his will and is able to manipulate; it is not love, it is fear. Christine Dae becomes a great prodigy in the Opera thanks to the teachings of her Angel of Music, but she knows that love is not surrendering to the other person’s wishes, but the continuous improvement of the other.

The OG is not able to love because he lacks his own love, so no matter how much he imprisons Christine, he is not able to receive love because he doesn’t accept himself. Instead Christine begins to fear him and ends up pitying him. None of that is true love.

A person who doesn’t love himself or herself tends to confuse love for what they are receiving. Therefore, to receive “love” they provoke fear or pity, so they can have attention. Nevertheless, love is not about receiving, but giving to others. The more we give, the more we get.

What it takes…

Being a leader is having the ability to acknowledge the small details and make them work, so society can move forward and be better. A leader needs a team effort because in this quest to improve he or she needs the different abilities and capacities that everyone can offer. As Drew Houston, founder of Dropbox, agrees: “The most successful people are obsessed with solving an important problem, something that matters to them. They remind me of a dog chasing a tennis ball. To increase your own chances of happiness and success, you must find your tennis ball—the thing that pulls you.” 

A leader doesn’t mean we need to create or to become famous, but to constantly question ourselves: What do I really care about? What am I meant to do? Those questions help us have our head in the ground and live without chasing ghosts or things that cannot be true.

Being a leader consists of tending to reality what is there and what isn’t. Once we find the answers, then we can follow our passion:  What would I do if I could never fail? What would I do if I received a billion dollars today? 

If we find our passion we are sure to build a business and capitalize our dreams so we can make society better. “It is not only about you as an entrepreneur, however. It is also about your employees.” Having an enterprise is not a one-man job, it is the team effort that enriches the work with each and every difference that makes everyone move in the right direction.

Do you know who I am?

When people ask that, it is not a question of their existence nor to find their identity, but to make you realize that he is someone that you must respect. It is like a demand and a complaint of our lack of care, so we can treat them better or so they show they have an advantage over the rest, including ourselves.

Apparently, it is in the recognition of the others that we have some value and become worthy of the service or treatment we can have. The main problem is that if we do not value ourselves, we cannot expect others to recognize us and make us worthy.

The quintessential as&$% question “do you know who I am?” is full of
lies. Those who think they have to get what they want just because they exist no matter if others have done the same disrupt society. If we deserve something is because we have earned it through our actions. An idiot wants all the privileges without working for them.

The Christmas paradox

Why does Christmas amaze us? There is a change in the air once the world prepares for Christmas. People become more ethical and more aware of the need of others and change their actions with the excuse “it is Christmas”. What harm may come? or what is the big deal? or is it because it is that time of the year when we are genuine to do good things? 

Is there something in the air that makes us feel good to do good? The Christmas spirit is something magical that makes us change our habits to try to do good.

Publicity becomes more charitable, peaceful and innocent, bad news diminishes and there are messages of hope and love instead, and we are constantly reminded of the unity and love that is around unlike the rest of the year when everything seems to be misplaced or at war. Instead, the end of the years is filled with hope and peace and love for one another.

There is also business flowing and consumerism is exploded but in a peaceful ideal, which is clearly not real because that is the time of the year when most people die and become violent chasing after sales. But the idea of spreading love through small gifts that remind us of our humanity and the same wish of peace that we all desire concentrates at Christmas. “We wish every day was like Christmas”.