Haters

“Hater” is a very popular word these days. The first time I heard the word, all that I was able to picture was a very angry person who despised everything and everyone around him/her. Now, every time I hear this widely used word, I think of miserable people whose job is not to love; people who are incapable of having any nice feelings such as love, sympathy, empathy, etc. towards anybody. Therefore, if you ask me a hater is a very strong word, and in my opinion, it should not be used lightly.

However, every context in which I have heard it used is to refer to a person who does not agree with a type of behavior, a specific action, something very specific, but that doesn’t mean that they hate everything or everybody. It does not even mean that they hate that which they do not like or do not agree with. They might not share someone else’s thoughts, ideas, ideals, but that does not make them haters.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and their own feelings and even if they don’t agree with you, they should be respected, just the way you want to be respected. The trend now is to protect those who seem “helpless” or “attacked” no matter if they are good or bad, no matter if they are actually doing something right or not. If they belong to a minority, the tendency these days is to trash those people who don’t agree with these minorities or who speak their minds about what is currently politically correct. If you dare say you don’t agree with someone’s opinion, if you speak your mind about not liking somebody’s new look, or how he/she acted in a determined situation according to today’s standards, you are labelled a hater and that is how everyone will identify you.

 One of the catchiest phrases I have come across lately is “forget the haters, do what you like”. Sure, you can do whatever you want with yourself, with your life. At the end of the day, you are the one who will suffer the consequences of your actions. Nevertheless, if someone doesn’t think you are doing the right thing and tells you what he/she thinks about it, that does not make him/her a hater. Words matter. They leave marks that won’t be erased so easily. Be aware of this, and before you label someone a hater, take into account that those people who disagreed with you might have been just trying to help.

Adela Aranguren

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