The movie The shack talks about a girl who is abducted while being in vacation with her family. The father is distracted by his elder children when his little girl is taken away from him into the forest. Time passes and we see how the family has fallen apart and the only thing keeping them together is the mother.
Forgiveness is not about forgetting. It is about letting go of another person’s throat……Forgiveness does not create a relationship. Unless people speak the truth about what they have done and change their mind and behavior, a relationship of trust is not possible. When you forgive someone you certainly release them from judgment, but without true change, no real relationship can be established………Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive. But should they finally confess and repent, you will discover a miracle in your own heart that allows you to reach out and begin to build between you a bridge of reconciliation………Forgiveness does not excuse anything………You may have to declare your forgiveness a hundred times the first day and the second day, but the third day will be less and each day after, until one day you will realize that you have forgiven completely. And then one day you will pray for his wholeness…
Sometimes we think that our sadness and our pain cannot be controlled o relieved. That is true, nobody can feel how we feel, not even in our pain. To talk about it may calm us but it will never go away if we are not willing to let it go.
Anger is the right response to something that is so wrong. But don’t let the anger and pain and loss you feel prevent you from forgiving him and removing your hands from around his neck.
Forgiveness comes when we are able to let go our pain by releasing the other that harms us. It is one of the best acts we can do in our life, to let go off the past so we can live in the present and build our future. The pain we feel shows low self-esteem, to relieve it will help us regain our confidence. Dare to be happy, let go.